Do men wish women were initiating sex more often?
Rumor is that men are getting a little tired of always initiating sex. In fact, this isn’t just a rumor. Studies show that men initiate twice as many times as women.
If you find this to be true in your relationship, perhaps it is time to initiate sex, but how do we make the first move with our spouses?
How Do Men Feel About Women Initiating Sex?
Men love to see you take charge in the bedroom. In fact, one of the top male sexual fantasies is seeing their partner turn into a tigress in bed.
Men generally don’t mind making the first move, especially when it leads to intimacy.
However, they wouldn’t mind if you initiated sex every once in a while. When men want sex their signals are pretty obvious – if you get my drift, nudge, nudge, wink, wink, let’s go to the bedroom.
How to Make the First Move?
When it comes to making the first move, women are much more subtle. We might hug, kiss, or cuddle, but you leave the sexual advances up to your man.
So why don’t you initiate sex?
Studies have found women don’t usually initiate sex, quite simply because they don’t have to. Most women know that their husbands will initiate sex every night of the week. Plus some women feel like they are too busy for sex.
The problem with letting our spouses always initiating sex is that they don’t know when we actually want to have sex!
He might even think that you are only being intimate because you feel like you “have to”
A common myth is that men are always horny and therefore ready for sex.
Feeling Rejected, and Shy About Sex
Some women don’t initiate sex because they fear being rejected or are a little bit shy about initiating sex.
Did you know that men refuse sex with their partners at the same rate as females?
Rejection is hard for either gender.
Once a woman is rejected when she tries to initiate sex she might be a little slow to do it again. We have to remember that some days our partners just aren’t into it, just like we aren’t, and that is okay!
Try again later or the next day. I mean honestly, there is nothing more invigorating to a guy than a woman who initiates sex with your husband.
How to Initiate Sex with your spouse
If you are sitting here reading this going, Okay! I am going to do it. I am going to initiate sex with my spouse, but you don’t know where to start, here are some great tips on how to initiate sex with your spouse!
- Go to bed at the same time.
- Leave your phone in the other room.
- Show him you want to initiate sex.
- Don’t be embarrassed about being into him.
- Be creative when initiate sex.
- Dress the part.
- Send him texts throughout the day letting him know your plans after the kids are in bed.
- Giving a sensual massage.
- Inviting him to join you for a shower or bath.
- Stripping off your clothes one piece at a time.
- Stimulating all of his senses with scents, music, food, and sexy lingerie.
- Follow through!
There are so many fun options that being creative is half the fun of creating new initiating habits.
Surveys show couples believe both partners should initiate sex with equal frequency
According to surveys men and women both feel like partners should initiate sex equally. If this is the case, why doesn’t it happen then?
A majority of couples get stuck in an initiating rut, resentment builds, power struggles ensue and sex starts to be something you just check off the to-do list.
When you find yourself in this rut it is time to stop blaming each other and start focusing on what type of initiation rut has been created.
How to Communicate About Initiating Sex
We always here that communication is key when it comes to sex, but sometimes we find it hard to communicate about this topic with our spouse.
Believe it or not, our husbands want us to tell them what arouses them. And I am sure the same goes for you too, you want your husband to tell you what he would like.
So instead, of just wondering what he wants, talk to him and have an open dialogue about how to initiate sex in a way that he likes and vice versa.
Talk about what arouses you
What do you like when it comes to initiating sex? What does he like?
Take some time to talk about it! Maybe it is as simple as telling your husband in the morning that you can’t wait to make love with them that night or maybe he wants something a little more.
The more you talk about what each other like the more in tune you will be with one another and initiating sex becomes easy.
There you have it! Simple and easy ways on how to initiate sex with your spouse!
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