So, you are with this guy. You have fallen for him and want to be in a serious relationship with him. But you find it hard to understand the way he behaves if he wants the same thing. Whether he wants to be in a casual relationship with you or dig deeper into the relationship – is not clear to you.
Do you have the same scenario in your life? For example, do you love someone and want to be with him in the long term, but you are not sure if he wants it too?
Well, girl, it is time to pay more attention to your intuition and look for signs that can make you understand what exactly is going on in your guy’s mind!
Does he love you back? Is he speaking the truth when he says that he was too busy to call or text you? Is he being truthful when he says he cannot meet your friends because he has somewhere important to be?
No, you don’t have to pull your hair in frustration as you don’t have answers to these questions!
I am here to help you find answers to whatever questions you have in mind regarding your equation with this guy.
Read the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you, and everything will be clear to you.
Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You
Just know one thing, before you find similarities with these signs and be heartbroken.
If a guy doesn’t make you feel special, that means he doesn’t want to. If he doesn’t make time for you, that means he doesn’t want to.
Don’t try to convince yourself that he is doing all these because he is too busy or cannot express himself well. You need to pick up the hints, dear!
1. His Behaviour Toward You is Not Consistent
If a guy likes you, he will try his best to make you happy. He will always show his love for you. He will care for you. His efforts to woo you will always be visible. And he will be like that whenever he is with you.
But does the guy you like behaves somewhat differently? Does he become all lovey-dovey one day and then completely ignore you the other day? Does he calls or text you frequently one day and then not receive your calls or reply to your texts the next day?
Then, girl, consider this as a red sign! It suggests that this guy is not serious about you. Instead, he is there with you just for momentary pleasure.
2. He Contacts You Only When There is Something He Needs
When a guy is serious about you, he will try to always be there for you – no matter what. He will always be in contact with you because he wants to hear your lovely voice or see your smiling face. That makes him feel connected to you – no matter how far or busy he is.
Loving someone means you always want to be close to him. And when that is not physically possible, you call or text him, right?
But is your guy not behaving this way? Does he call you or get in touch with you only when he needs something from you? Does he not call you for no reason just to check in on you? Does it often happen that he ignores your calls and doesn’t call you back? Does he never call you when you are least expecting his call so that he can surprise you? Does he get in touch with you only when he needs emotional support or physical intimacy?
If your answer to all these questions is “yes,” then know that it is a clear sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you. He is taking you for granted. You can never trust this kind of guy. And what is the point of dating someone who is not there with you or who doesn’t answer your calls when you actually need him?
This can make you feel used and neglected.
3. He Doesn’t Have Time For You
Let me be very clear: if a guy wants to be in a relationship with you, he WILL make time for you, No Matter What!
When you are in love with someone, you want to make the time stop when you are with him. You want to give all your time to him. You don’t want to leave his side. You make time for him even if you are the CEO of a company or if you are in some other administrative position. And you do this because you really want to be with him.
Consider it a red flag if your guy doesn’t give you time or says he is busy whenever you want to talk to him or ask him to meet you. Remember, if he can make time for playing a video game every night or watch his favorite match every weekend, it means he can make some time for you too. And when he doesn’t do that, it means that he doesn’t want to.
4. He Meets You Only For Sex
When you truly love someone, you want to be one with that person. I agree. But that doesn’t mean you will meet him only when you want to have sex, doesn’t it?
You meet your partner to talk about your relationship, likes, dislikes, your future together, how you feel about each other, how frequently you miss each other, and sometimes, sweet nothings.
This is what an actual relationship looks like. All you want is to spend as much time as you can with each other. It doesn’t matter what you are talking about or what you are doing.
But things can be complicated if the guy you like only calls you when he wants to be physically intimate. For example, he may want to have a call with you to have phone sex, or he may text you so that he can sext. To be precise, you always end up being intimate or having sex whenever you are together or are on the phone.
There may also be times after having sex when you feel like your guy has used you. This can make you wonder if you are really in a real relationship. In fact, he may talk about sex even when you need emotional support. This is a clear sign that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.
5. He Doesn’t Feel Like Knowing You
When you are in love with someone and want to have a strong and healthy relationship with them, you try to know that person as much as you can. The more you know him, the more you fall for him. And that is how love works. You spend as much time as you can with your partner, know him a bit more every day, discover his new sides, and your love for him deepens with time.
But when nothing of this sort happens from your partner’s side, know that this is one of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
In that case, he will talk with you only on superficial and casual topics. And he will never go deeper than that. He will change the topic if you try to start a serious conversation. In short, he will not talk to you on a personal level because he is not serious with you.
6. He Checks Out Other Women
If you love a guy, will you check out other guys or be interested in other guys? No, right?
You will always want to be with the love of your life and not be interested in someone else. But, of course, I am not saying that you will not look at other guys just because you are not interested in them. You can look, but that is completely on a non-sexual level.
But things are not the same for the guy who is not interested in you or doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship with you.
He checks other women out and acts flirtatiously with them even when you are with him. He doesn’t pay attention to you like you are his priority. Instead, he talks with other girls, keeping you waiting.
This is a clear sign that he is in a casual relationship with you, and he doesn’t want it to be a serious one.
7. He is Not Emotionally Available
We are our true selves when we are with the person we love and want to be with them. So we share our emotions and thoughts. And we become really vulnerable in front of them. All these because we love them and start considering them as our family. Isn’t it?
But know that there is some issue if things are not like this with the guy you like.
Does he not talk to you about himself and his family? Does he not share his dreams, goals, aspirations, and failures with you? Has it never happened that he is vulnerable in front of you? Does he always come up with some light-hearted conversations or even jokes whenever you try to talk to him about something serious? Do you, at times, feel like you really don’t know this guy?
If all your answers are “yes,” then get that this guy is not ready to have a serious relationship with you. Maybe it is just you who is taking this relationship seriously, and he is just there being casual with you.
8. He Never Takes You to His Home
When a relationship is in its starting phase, you begin to know at least something about your partner every day. It is one of the most exciting phases of a romantic relationship. This is the time when you spend hours together, and your romance keeps on growing.
Then when the relationship advances, you share your family backgrounds and your past, among many other things. And if you are totally invested in the relationship, you introduce each other to each other’s parents.
But, if the guy you are into doesn’t talk to you about introducing you to his parents ever, consider it a red signal. But, on the other hand, maybe he is doing so because he is just here for a fling, and he doesn’t have any serious feelings for you.
9. He Doesn’t Talk to You About Your Future Together
Who doesn’t love to spend all their time with the person they like, right?
When there is love, all you want is to be with the person of your dreams and have a happy time. So you plan to meet after work, you plan to have romantic dates on the weekends, and you plan your holidays together. To be precise, everything that you plan involves the two of you.
But that is not the case if the guy you like is not serious about you. He does not include you in any of his future plans. Of course, I’m not talking about marriage here, but the other plans are on weekends and holidays.
He may plan his weekend seeing a football match with his friends or attending a family dinner after work – it can be anything. But none of his plans include you. And when this happens, get the hint that he is not into you and move on. There is nothing for you in a one-sided relationship other than pain.
10. He Doesn’t Introduce You to His Friends
If you are in a serious relationship and you see your future with your partner, you will make it a point to introduce your partner to your close ones, including your friends. Your friends are nothing less than your family, and you want your partner to bond with them too.
In a healthy relationship, what happens is that your friends become your partner’s friends and vice versa – all thanks to the numerous parties and hanging outs together!
Is the case different with you? For example, have you never met this guy’s friends? Does he always change the topic whenever you say that you want to meet his friends?
Oh, girl, I feel sorry for you. It seems that things are not in your favour.
This guy is not serious about you. He is just with you for the time being. And this is one of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
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11. You Have Issues Trusting Him
Trust plays an important part in any relationship. If you are close to someone or you are in love with someone, there has to be a strong sense of trust between you two.
When you trust a guy, you open up to him and share your insecurities and even your deepest darkest secrets. And you do this because you know and you are very sure that this guy will not tell your secrets to other people and that all your personal talks are safe with him. You have faith in this guy, and you imagine your future together. And this is exactly what a normal and serious relationship looks like.
But if the case is otherwise, then there is certainly something wrong in the relationship.
Are you finding it difficult to trust this guy completely? Do you not feel like sharing your secrets with him?
Then, girl, this means that your partner is behaving in a certain way that is making you feel so. This suggests he is not really into you. Maybe he is in it just for the time being, and so he doesn’t want you to be all over him, which is why he is behaving like that.
12. He Doesn’t Listen to You
Let’s admit: we girls love to talk! Well, at least most of us. And when it comes to talking to the guy we like, our talking knows no bounds.
We like talking about ourselves, our friends, our family, our day, and whatnot. Now, if the guy you like likes you back, he will definitely be interested in listening to your stories and rants – no matter how boring they are. He will do this because he loves to hear you, and he has an interest in your life.
But the case is not the same if the guy you like and want to be in a serious relationship with doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. He will seem rather disinterested in your stories. He will be with you, but his mind will be elsewhere. This is one of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
13. He Always Has an Excuse
When you are in love, you make excuses just to be with them and talk to them. You make that special person your priority. You want to be there with them whenever they are in a difficult situation or they need you.
But, honey, if the guy you like always comes up with an excuse whenever you want them by your side or tell them that you want to make your relationship official, then know that there is a problem.
Does he tell you things like, “What is the rush?” and “we are still in the initial phase of our relationship.”? Then consider it as a red flag. It clearly states that he is not ready to announce you as his girlfriend, or he is not ready to be in a relationship with you.
14. You Feel He Doesn’t Want to Be Serious With You
They say that girls have a stronger sixth sense than guys. We can understand what is happening around us a lot faster than guys.
So, what do you feel about this guy you like? Do you feel that he is with you just for the time being? Do you feel that he is here only for a casual relationship and nothing deep? Do you think he is with you just for fun?
Then, girl, trust your gut feelings!
Yes, I know. You may want to shut your inner voice down and want to hold on to this guy as you have fallen for him. But that will bring you only momentary happiness. After that, you will feel left alone and sad for yourself when he ends this fling.
So, the best thing that you can do is move out of it if you have started to have an expectation from this relationship. Because deep down, you also know that this relationship of yours doesn’t have any future. The quicker you move out, the less the amount of heartbreak.
15. He is All Words But No Action
Do you get a lot of texts from the guy you like but does he not seem to be with you when he is actually with you? For example, does he text you that he misses you a lot but never makes plans to meet you, or if you make any plan, he always has an excuse not to make it happen?
Well, receiving sweet messages from your partner can be very romantic, and they manage to bring a smile to your face anyhow. But what happens when he is actually with you? Does he not give any effort to talking to you? Does he not listen to you?
Then, girl, know that he is all words and no action. And that directly points toward his disinterest in being in a serious relationship with you.
Because if a guy really wants to be with you, he will make all the effort, and he will make you feel that, yes, he is trying to make you happy.
One of the sad things about liking someone and being in a serious relationship with them is that things don’t always work in your favor. Maybe the guy you want to be with doesn’t see you in a romantic light. And when that happens, it can be really difficult for you to deal with the situation.
Have you found similarities with these signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you?
You may feel devastated. But, girl, look up and listen. You can get nothing out of a one-sided relationship other than pain.
So, don’t let the situation affect you. Maybe, someday, you will meet some guy who loves you with all his heart – just the way you wanted.
Till then, cheer up and focus on yourself!