Going through a miscarriage is both physically and mentally hard and sex after miscarriage is probably the last thing on your mind. But over time you might start to think about being intimate with your spouse again.
But when is it safe to have sex after miscarriage?
No two miscarriages are the same. There are several factors that go into the decision as to when it is safe to have sex again.
Most of the time couples can start having sex again once they both feel ready and the bleeding has stopped. But with that being said it is best to consult your doctor to ensure your body is physically healed prior to sex.
Before having sex again you should:
- Stop bleeding
- Consult your doctor
- Make sure the uterus and cervix have healed (to prevent infection)
- All pregnancy and fetal tissue is removed
- Ready emotionally
Sex after Miscarriage for Women
It is natural for women to feel distant from their spouse after a miscarriage. They are suffering mentally and physically. Potentially they are longing and thinking about their baby that has passed.
Sex after miscarriage is often a brutal reminder of the child she has lost.
So how do you get to the point where you are ready to have sex after miscarriage? These tips can help you!
5 Tips to Want to be Intimate after Miscarriage
It is totally natural and normal to not want to be intimate after a miscarriage. These tips will help strengthen your relationship and help you have a desire to be intimate again with your spouse.
Communicate
It is natural that you feel distant from your partner after miscarriage. The best thing to do is communicate with your partner how you are feeling emotionally and physically.
Even if you don’t feel like you are ready to have sex after your miscarriage yet, tell them you love them and that you just aren’t ready yet.
It is only through communication can your relationship move on and overcome your loss together.
Seek help if needed
When you have a miscarriage, you lost your child. It is natural that you grieve and are sad about your loss. If you are feeling depressed it is a great idea to seek professional help.
They will help you talk through your grieving and help you overcome the struggles you are having.
By doing this you will be able to be physically and emotionally ready to have sex after miscarriage.
Start slow
Start slow when you are ready to be intimate again. This can be simple things like:
- holding hands
- hugging
- cuddling on the couch
- kissing
- dates
- massages
These simple intimate ideas will lead to a more intimate relationship when you are ready.
Look for those fluttering moments
Remember when you first met your spouse and you had those flutters? Yeah, we all know what those feel like!
Look for those fluttering moments and take advantage of how you feel in those moments that will lead you to want to be intimate.
Take a test drive
You know when you don’t really want something, but then someone tells you to try it because you might actually like it?
If you are struggling to have sex after miscarriage and your body is healed and you have been given the okay from the doctor, you might just have to take it for a test drive.
Start slow, be in control, and see what happens… Who knows you might remember how much you like it?!
Being intimate after a miscarriage is a personal decision you and your spouse need to make together. Don’t feel pressured to have to be intimate. Take your time and do it when you feel ready.
FAQ about Pregnancy after miscarriage
There are so many questions out there about pregnancy after miscarriage we thought since we are talking about sex after miscarriage we would address some of the FAQs.
Are you more fertile after a miscarriage?
There is a chance you are more fertile after your miscarriage the first month. So, if you are trying to not get pregnant again right away or your doctor has advised you to wait be sure you use some form of protection.
How long should you wait after miscarriage?
This is a question thousands of women ask after they have had a miscarriage. How long you should wait is something you should talk to your doctor about as well as your partner.
Also, be sure you take the time to assess if you are ready to try again for another baby.
Can I get pregnant quickly after a miscarriage?
If you are trying to boost your fertility after a miscarriage you can do this by
- regular exercise
- eating right
- limiting your caffeine
- Try to reduce stress in your life
- discontinue smoking drinking, drug use
How did you feel okay being intimate after miscarriage? Share in the comments!