Last week’s challenge: Appreciate my husband as a father, and be more trusting of his parenting decisions. Try to stop steaming at him for the things I think he’s doing wrong, and seek a middle ground.
Hooooo boy, I picked a good one, didn’t I?
To be honest, I pretty much failed at this challenge on Sunday morning, before I made the post. I don’t even remember what set me off now (it must not have been that bad), but I do remember thinking I am going to get up and walk RIGHT OUT OF THIS HOUSE and drive around the block until my brain stops hurting.
But for the rest of the week? I did pretty great. I’ll admit to you all that I sort of cheated. You see, my husband works a shift where he’s on for 7 days, then off for 7 days, and when he works, it’s from 5am-5pm. Then he has a commute that takes up to an hour after that. This week, he worked, so I only really saw him between the hours of 6pm and 9pm, and Maia goes to bed around 8pm.
That means I only had a window of about two hours a night to succeed or fail at the challenge.
Yeah, it was cheap of me to do things this way. Baby steps are the way to success, however.
Starting tomorrow, he’s off for the week. I’m not going to set the same challenge, but I am going to try and keep it in mind. Another thing I’ll keep in mind is that our house really, really needs to be neater. I mean, it’s really ridiculously sloppy, and sooner or later our daughter will be mobile. We owe it to her, and our sanity, to keep things neater and safer.
That, and I feel that a chaotic-looking household leads to disorganization of thought and action. I don’t think I’m doing myself or my husband any favours by letting entropy reign. In fact, there’s one thing in particular that we actually argue about, and is the ONLY non-parenting thing we fight over (and this is the truth):
DISHES.
We do not have a dishwasher. We cannot have one. I have a lot of negative mental associations with doing dishes, namely that it’s complete crap, I hate it, and it’s a horrible way to use my time.
So guess what I’m challenging myself to do?
This week’s challenge: Have an empty sink (and clean counters) at the end of every night.
