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Healthy Living: Change Your Life - Week 2

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

You may remember my post last week about my summer challenge, trying to live a healthier life by following four easy tasks. Well, week 1 has come and gone. So how did I do?

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Healthy Living. Change Your Life with WATER

The first thing I discovered healthy living challenge is that 8-12 ounce glasses of water is a lot of water. A LOT OF WATER. On day one it took me right up until bedtime to finish all my water for the day (but I did it). The other thing I discovered is that what goes in, must come out. Meaning I found myself having to go to the bathroom often. As the week went on, the bathroom frequency wasn’t so much of an issue (perhaps my bladder stretched) but drinking all the water is still a challenge. If I remembered, I would bring a water bottle with me when I was out to ensure I was still drinking but some days I still didn’t get through all my water. Although I know that drinking water is good for you (keeping your hydrated and your energy level up, flushing out your system), but I stumbled upon another benefit - feeling full. I have discovered the more water I drink, the fuller I feel and this is really good, especially at night when I usually crave a snack. I still had a craving but the fullness deterred me from giving in. A nice bonus.

Healthy Living. Change Your Life with EXERCISE

I’ve been making an effort to walk most places. The good thing is that two of my kids are registered for summer camp so we’ve been walking there and back, everyday. But in addition to this I wanted to add in regular exercise. I’ve been using the Xbox 360 Kinect Your Shape Fitness Evolved program. It’s been awhile since I’ve done a regular fitness routine so getting back into doing a workout programs has been tough. My body has been telling me that too. It’s funny how you (or at least I) base my fitness on my weight. I’m not overweight but I’m completely out of shape. My oldest daughter was home with me so we tried a few of the fitness games together (virtual hula hooping is just as hard as the real thing). And the virtual smash game has been working on my cardio but also my mental agility too (having to communicate to my body where my eye seems the target and striking quickly).

Healthy Living. Change Your Life with MEATLESS

I was fortunate to find a meatless recipe, or actually an EverythingMom member (Merry with Children) shared a meatless dish that her family has enjoyed: Thai Style Tofu Noodles. It was actually easy to prepare (which is a good thing) and it was pretty good too (though my 2 youngest ate it reluctantly). I think I would cut the tofu smaller next time. I would definately try this recipe again but now I’m on the looking for a new meatless meal to try this week. Ideas?

Healthy Living. Change Your Life with SLEEP

I did great on day one; I was in bed by 10:00 p.m. I was so impressed with my willpower to call it a night early (not like me). Too bad I didn’t stick to my guns for the rest of the week. No surprise, this was actually my hardest challenge. I really want to go to bed by 10 but it’s so hard to let go of the day, give in to not doing work or hanging out with my husband. There just never seems to be enough hours in the day. I think because I’m a night owl and I’m not feeling tired at night (though come morning that’s a whole other story), there’s nothing, no physical sense that compels me to go to bed. I know sleep is important so I’m going to work on this again.

I also received some more Multibionta multivitamins to ensure I don’t run out (and have an excuse for not taking them) during my summer challenge. Each morning I ensure my kids eat their multivitamin so to make sure I don’t forget my own (which does seem to happen) I’ve kept my bottle in the kitchen with the kids’ vitamins. Now when they eat theirs, I have mine too.

There is one other obsticle I wasn’t expecting when I started this healthy living challenge: the weekend. I guess since we don’t have camp and our schedule is more open, I thought the weekends would be easier to fit in my challenge tasks in (except the sleep one: I knew I’d be struggling to getting to bed earlier). But the weekends proved to be a challenge for everything: I didn’t drink my water, exercise or get to sleep on time. I can see how I’ll have to be more vigilant on this during the weekend.

Well I’ve started week 2. Hopefully things will get a little easier but even these tasks, which should be easy enough to follow through on, are proving to be a real challenge. A real summer challenge.

Healthy Living: Change Your Life - Week 1

Sunday, July 3rd, 2011

Summer is here and school is out. For many it’s a time for vacation and relaxing and breaking from their routine, even if for a little bit. I’m actually looking at summer as a time for change in my life; a time to instill some healthy living. I’ve talked about making changes before, taking care of myself, but it’s been mostly talk. By committing my plan in writing I’ll have to follow through.

I’m not looking at losing weight or making dramatic lifestyle changes. Instead I’m looking at taking little steps toward healthy living, steps that are easy to implement in a daily routine that already seems hectic.

The four healthy living changes I plan on making:

  1. Drink more water. Simple enough to be sure but it’s not something I’ve been doing. You’re suppose to drink eight-12 ounce glasses of water a day; I may drink one. I usually get distracted or busy and forget how much I’ve had. To make things easier, I  have a container I’ll keep in the fridge, filled in the morning, so I can monitor how I’m doing during the day. By having a container I don’t have to worry about keeping track of how many glasses I’ve had; the container will show me at a quick glance how I’m progressing.
  2. Exercise regularly. Sure I’ll get some fitness in walking the kids to camp every day but I want to add some regular exercise to my week too. I know won’t get to a gym either because of work or the kids’ scheduled but I can still workout at home. I have some great programs that operate on our gaming systems. I’m especially looking forward to trying the yoga routine on the XBox Kinect. My plan is to do a regular workout at least 3-days a week (Monday, Wednesday and Friday).
  3. Go meatless. To be honest, I can’t give up meat all together. I know many who have but I love meat far too much to go cold turkey, or rather, cold tofu. But I do understand the benefits of cutting down on my meat consumption (EverythingMom has a great article on that very topic). My plan is to have a meatless meal at least once a week. This will be an interesting challenge for me. I’m not what you would call very domesticated so finding appealing recipes (since it won’t be just me going meatless) that I can cook will be a challenge all on its own but I’m going to give it a try. I’m not going to pick a day of the week for this meal since that will just stress me out. Maybe it will be Monday or Thursday or who knows. As long as it’s one day during the week I’m good.
  4. Getting more sleep. This one will pose a bit of a challenge for me as I’m a confessed night owl. I usually go to be after midnight. At lot of times it’s because I work late and don’t feel like going to bed right after work. Doing that makes me feel like I’ve had no personal time. So instead I watch a show on TV (also not a good thing for sleep). Along with exercise and eating well, sleep plays an important part in your body’s health. I tell my kids that sleep is when your body repairs and renews itself, getting ready for the new tasks and challenges it will face the following day. And I believe that but I don’t seem to respect that.

With these changes, to ensure I keep my energy level up and get the vitamins my body needs, Multibionta pro-biotic multivitamin will also be part of my daily routine. I was never a big multivitamin fan until I tried Multibionta last year (I wrote my thoughts here).

I told you I was looking at taking simple steps. I’m not looking at preparing my body to run a marathon or cleanse my body of all the toxins I’ve accumulated over the years. I’m looking at living a little healthier. All of these tasks are simple and easy to incorporate but sometimes the easiest things are the hardest. The easiest things are the things you take for granted.

So now that I’ve tossed it out there, made a record of my plan for this summer, my hope is that I’ll have to follow through. And to ensure that I do, I will be updating my blog every Monday for the next nine weeks, until the crazy back to school routine kicks in, recording my progress. This will be my kick to make sure I get these changes in place. And hopefully these simple changes will become so routine over the summer that even with the busy school season, these steps will be engrained in me as something I do every day, like brushing my teeth and kissing my kids goodnight.

Wish me luck.

Driving Safe: Safe Driving Technology

Friday, June 24th, 2011

I was one of those moms, reluctant about moving into a minivan but with 3 kids in car seats, the minivan was where we ended up. safe_driving_technologyI’ve come to terms with that (I think) and actually there are a number of great features on my van that I really value, like some of the safety features. I can’t imagine driving without my back-up camera and blind spot indicators. I’m usually the one transporting my kids to and from school, lessons, errands, appointments, and friends; sometimes I feel we live in our car if it’s a busy day.

It seems I’m not the only one who is uncomfortable backing-up and changing lanes. Based on a recent survey commissioned by Canadian Tire:

  • 38 percent of drivers avoid backing into parking spots over fears of hitting something
  • 33 percent say they’re nervous to make a lane change in heavy traffic
  • 32 percent have been honked at when changing lanes

“Ninety per cent of all driving decisions are made by what we see, but as our survey shows, once Canadians drivers shift into reverse they feel like they are driving blind,” says Andrew Davies, Vice President, Automotive, Canadian Tire. “Driving effectively and safely in all directions is critical to keeping our roads and driveways safe.”

I had a chance to visit Canadian Tire to view some easy-to-use products designed to help improve visibility in a driver’s blind spot, such as Yada Rearview Mirror Back-up Camera and Speakerphone, Yada Parking Assist and the Yada Blind Spot Assist System.  As I mentioned, these features are built in to my van and I have come to rely on them for my every day driving. Now older vehicles and cars, like my husband’s, that isn’t necessarily a ‘family vehicle’ but still transports the family, can benefit from these safety features without the expense of a new vehicle or dealer installed features.

With summer vacation about to kick-off and road trips around the corner, feeling comfortable going forwards and backwards is going to important.

Are Parents Misguided about French Education?

Monday, June 13th, 2011

Becoming a parent means more than just changing diapers and teaching your kids to ride a bike, it also means making decisions for your kids. Some are easy, like what shirt to wear when visiting grandma or what TV shows are appropriate for your child to watch. Others are much more complicated, especially decisions around your child’s education. We all have aspirations for our kids but life is unpredictable. We all want what’s best for our kids when they grow-up; we want to ensure that we’ve given them the best ground work for a successful and happy future.

I think enrolling kids into French Immersion or Extended French classes in elementary school is one of those misguided decisions parents make for their kids under the guise of giving them the best possible future. Don’t get me wrong, if french is a language spoken in the family (even if not the primary language) immersing your kids into language studies makes sense; it’s an extension of a lifestyle they already live. If you live in a city where a large portion of the population speaks french, even if you as parents don’t speak it, I can see how having your child enrolled in extended French education would be beneficial; it might mean the difference between getting a job in the city where they live or moving somewhere else. Even in cases where your child has an interest or aptitude for languages, sure, perhaps Extended French or French Immersion classes are something worth considering.

With many schools unable to afford gym teachers, playground equipment, school supplies, art, music or other creative classes, it seems wasteful to me to plan school budgets and funding around Extended and Immersion French classes. Let’s not forget that our kids are in school learning new concepts, like reading and math and science. I find the further away I get from my youth, the more I romanticize about what my childhood was like and how easy things came to me. I forget the struggles with reading and math concepts. Imagine learning those concepts in a language you are not comfortable or fluent in; learning a language while learning a class. And in the case of our family, where my husband and I don’t speak french, imagine the frustration and heartbreak of not being able to do your job as a parent and help your child with their work. I don’t mean do their homework but offer guidance when they’re stuck on a problem.

I realize that Canada is officially a bilingual country but where I live Spanish, Cantonise or Mandarin would serve my children better than French. I think parents are misguided, thinking they need to give their child a French education so they will be better qualified for any job they want. But in reality, just because you daughter or son is surounded by French for their school day, if they don’t use it outside of school, during summer holidays, in their part-time job, how are they going to maintain the language? The Toronto Star wrote a piece on this exact point: Bilingual, but only inside the classroom.

I don’t have an issue with Core French, a class like any other class but focusing on teaching the French language. The more parents I talk to about the French issue in the English school system, the more I discover parents who have just gone the course because it’s expected or they’ve felt pressured to do it. I think as parents we have to ask ourselves why we want our kids to be enrolled in Extended French or French Immersion. Each family will have their own reasons but if it’s ‘because everyone says it’s better for my child’ , then maybe that decision should be rethought.

For us? My kids will be going through the English stream at our school, even if it means they’re only in a class of 5. I don’t feel this decision is limiting future opportunities for my children at all. If anything, I think my kids will grow enjoying school and learning without the unneeded stress of French.

Do as I Say, Not as I Do.

Friday, June 3rd, 2011

There’s so much I love about EverythingMom but one of the most important is the message that moms are important. We spend so much time taking care of everyone else around us: kids, husband, friends, extended family, sometimes even strangers. volunteering_schoolI don’t know about you, but there always seems to be something that I ‘have’ to get done. I HAVE to follow-up on emails. I HAVE to update the website. I HAVE to help the kids with homework. I HAVE to make a homemade dinner the kids won’t turn their nose up at. You can see where I’m going with this.

I find I put on myself the expectation that I have to do it all; I’m a working mom who takes care of her family. In reality I’m a bit of a hypocrite. I’m part of a network that reassures moms that it is okay to choose one thing over another, to let the laundry slide, to have a good cry if you need it, to take a night off for yourself; yet I don’t follow these wise words.

I don’t volunteer time at the school my kids attend but instead I volunteer supplies. The school was hosting a Parent Volunteer Tea to thank all those parents who help to make the school community the place it is. When cornered at school after dropping off my youngest, I found myself making excuses as to why I couldn’t go. I was just too busy to afford the time. Instead I gave in, thinking I’d pop in for maybe 5-minutes and then head-out. Thirty minutes later I was still there, enjoy tea and cake and talking with parents I’ve only passed in the hall or school yard. It was actually a nice break (and I received a lovely flower too).

As I walked home I realized that taking the 30-minutes purely for myself didn’t cause my whole world to collapse. So the emails didn’t get answers right away or the updates happened later than planned; everything continued and the people on the other end were no wiser to my break.

I think I need to move from the mindset of working at EverythingMom to living the message; being an example. Of course that’s easier said than done as old habits die hard. Do you take time our for yourself? What are your little rewards?

But When I Was Young: The Not-So Sick

Thursday, May 26th, 2011

Funny when you have kids you get flashes of your own childhood in things they do or say. The most recent occurrence happened this past weekend when my son complained about an upset stomach. Not a typical stomach bug upset tummy but a spontaneous sharp pain in his gut type upset stomach. kids_getting_sickOf course like any parent I was concerned — no one wants to see their kids sick — but I must admit my mom skeptic radar shot-up. If you’re a mom you know the radar I speak of. I started to doubt my son’s ailment. I mean it wasn’t like a standard bug we’ve seen before (and we’ve seen a few). There were no other symptoms and he would burst into tears spontaneously, like when it was time for bed or halfway through dinner. It all seemed suspicious.

Of course this is where the childhood flashbacks come in. I’m sure I’m not alone when I admit there were days when I wasn’t as sick as I led my parents to believe so I could stay home. Now my kids are young and still love going to school so it’s probably not fair to compare my high school self to my elementary school kids, but in the back of my mind I think I was, creating this doubt.

Then the inevitable happened. My youngest developed the same spontaneous stomach pains, sending her into fits of tears out of the blue. Well with another confirmed case in the house, the illness had to be real right? I’ve kept my daughter at home, trying to make her feel comfortable. I’ve tried to reassure her that this will pass and she’ll be feeling better soon.

Yes I do feel a little guilty about my initial reaction to my son’s condition (who is now feeling much better). I am glad I kept my doubts to myself and still gave him the care, attention and reassurance he needed to get through his illness. My first reaction is to say I won’t judge my kids behaviour based on my childhood but in reality I probably will.

Have you found yourself reacting to your child’s actions purely based on your own childhood?

Decorating with Colour

Friday, May 13th, 2011

There’s something about a new house that brings the designer out in people you know — your real estate agent, your new neighbours, your family, completely strangers — and their advice is always the same, if you’re going to update the paint keep it neutral. I understand where they’re coming from, colour can be very personal, but the whole off-white, beige, neutral colour scheme just doesn’t work for me. When we bought our first house we didn’t do much in the way of painting because we had more important things to take care of. But after a few months the neutral colours in the place were bringing me down. We went and painted every room, bright bold colours: ox blood red, royal blue, mustard yellow. And when it came time to sell the place we had no problems, no issue with colours.

So when we bought our second home, paint was one of the first things we did (though some rooms, like my son’s, are still waiting for a good colour of paint). We followed with the same colours we used in our old place. Many people who visit say they love the colour but they could never do it in their own place; it’s far too bold. I find the colour warms the rooms up, translates our house into a home. The rooms may be darker, sucking the light into the walls versus reflecting them off of a white, but that just gives me an excuse to buy funky lamps. And forget the idea about not using bold colours in a small place. We painted our small downstairs bathroom a dark red and it has such a rich feel, like a royal throne (pun intended).

A forest green for our foyer

Mustard-like yellow for the living room with green accent

Dark red for the kitchen with black and stainless accents

Red kitchen connects to a burnt orange dining room

Granny smith apple green with yellow accents in youngest' bedroom

Blue in the upper stair hallway

Blue hallway leads to read and yellow office space

Red office with yellow accents

Even if you don’t think you can do a whole room with one colour, try painting just one wall or the ceiling or a banding. There’s a great article on EverythingMom about painting with colour, specifically red, and it has lots of great tips. You might be surprised at how much your room will warm-up with a little (or a lot) of colour.


Filed under: crafts and hobbies, home, just me Tagged: home decor, living in an old home

So It’s Official, I Have a New Job

Tuesday, May 3rd, 2011

Okay, so maybe NEW isn’t the correct word. I’m still working with EverythingMom.com but my role has evolved. Since I started working for the online company in 2009, I have been a big supporter of everything the site and the company and the founder, Michelle Davies, has stood for. I believe EverythingMom offers its members, writers, readers and marketers a great environment to connect and learn and share. It’s because of my belief in the company and Michelle that I became a partner in 2010, albeit a silent one.

With the new relaunch of content, site design and ad network, my role as Managing Partner and Editor-in-Chief has been made public. I will still be overseeing editorial content on the site but as a partner I’ll also be working with Michelle to carry the site forward into a prosperous future. What a thrill to be able to be part of a company that is supportive of its community, its contributors and staff, as well as the world around it.

Here’s to a fun and fulfilling 2011.


Filed under: celebration, just me, the future, working, working from home Tagged: everythingmom.com

Heaven Cats: Kids Dealing with Grief

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

As parents we do what we can to protect our kids, steering them clear of sadness, hiding them from cruelty. It’s true they are vulnerable, more so than us, and we want to preserve their innocence, hold off on tainting them with skepticism, doubt, and fear that we as adult seem to know all too well.

But some things you cannot hide from your kids, like the death of a pet. One of our family cats became very ill within the last few days. We had lost two other cats recently to the same illness but that doesn’t make this loss any easier. It was obvious to even the kids that Tick (our cat) was not well and really struggled with her disease near the end. We all tried our best to make her comfortable and pay her extra attention but her condition quickly worsened.
We were hoping Tick would make it past Monday since it was my oldest daughter’s ninth birthday and having one of your favourite animals, a member of the family, die on your birthday isn’t something you would wish on even an enemy. But all hope and prayer aside, it would have been very unfair to Tick to prolong her discomfort and sadness. We hated seeing her in a constant state of depression, unable to walk or even stand on her own, so my husband and I decided to ease her suffering at the vet’s office.

I don’t believe in lying to kids. Some truths are painful and have to be faced but the degree of truth can be adjusted. We told the kids that Tick has passed away in her sleep during the afternoon, when they were at school, so they wouldn’t feel as though they missed saying goodbye to her. I did make sure they all visited her in the morning before heading out but I didn’t see the need to send them to school heartbroken and distraught. Some might disagree with what I did but I can live with my decision.

Of course my kids were devastated, especially my oldest. I think she was also angry that Tick has died on her birthday. Of course she wished Tick had held out a little longer but my daughter also knew that Tick was in pain and really, any day is not a good day for a friend to die.

I don’t know what tore my insides up more, the fact that Tick was gone or that my daughter was so upset over her passing. And although it should have been me, the mother, who offered the reassuring voice, the person to bring comfort to a difficult situation, it was my daughter. It was her and her Heaven Cats.

Heaven Cats is an imaginary world involving, you guessed it, cat spirits. It use to just be made up cats, living wonderful lives free of want and suffering, but with the passing of three of our five cats, Heaven Cats took on a whole new meaning. The cats were no longer imaginary but rather the spirits of our cats. They lived their days enjoying anything and everything they wanted. Sometimes they would visit us, walk with the kids to school, hang out and listen to a story, sleep on a pile of pillows in my daughter’s room.

My daughter was indeed update by Tick’s passing, but somehow knowing that Tick wasn’t gone, that her spirit lingered or could be called on when comfort was needed, was reassuring to my kids (and to me). I don’t think this avoids the fact that our cat had died – my kids knew Tick was gone – but it made thinking about her passing easier. This was especially important since Tick seemed to be in so much pain near the end, not able to do the things she use to do. Now as a Heaven Cat she was hanging out in a jacuzzi tub, eating ice cream, chasing butterflies and visiting the kids for a walk home from school.

I guess sometimes kids are more resilient than we give them credit for.

We’ll always be sad and miss Tick but it’s nice to know she’s out there, hanging around, keeping an eye on us (between milk baths and back rubs of course).


Filed under: children, heaven, imagination, just me, lessons, oldest daughter Tagged: death of a pet, raising kids

Crying on Twitter

Tuesday, April 19th, 2011

Anyone who knows me, knows I’m pretty reserved, an introvert, not comfortable with social situations. Those who have met me at events may doubt this, a little. Sometimes it’s easier to put on a face in those scenarios, treat it like a work event and talk or at least try to get around and talk. But personally I’m not one to share, especially emotions.

I’ve been trying to come to terms with the recent death of one of our cats. I realize the death of a cat isn’t the same as the death of a child or mother but she was a member of our family, someone who was around for 16-years and experienced a lot of my major grown-up milestones: getting married, buying our first house, having kids, starting my own business. I knew she was old and she would eventually pass away. I think we all realize that about older family and friends but  keep ourselves in denial that it will actually happen to us or that it is so far down the road it’s not worth thinking about.

The death of our cat is even harder when kids are involved, especially with my 9-year old. I’ve been trying hard not to breakdown, trying to give her comfort when she needs it. And my husband has been amazing, holding it together while grieving internally too. But when I’m on my own, visiting the reading corner where our cat use to sit or walking past the water bowl outside the office door where our cat hung out for the last few days or even seeing the blanket on my office chair that I held our cat on her last day in the house, as I worked on my computer, I can’t stop myself from crying. Sometimes I want to scream or yell but that’s not me.

So I turned to Twitter.

As someone who works from home, Twitter has always been a great resource for me, like the office water cooler. I turn to it for inspiration, for connections, sometimes just for a good laugh. But lately Twitter has been there for a good cry. Some of the people I’ve met, some I’ve just had casual conversations with online, some I don’t know at all, but its allowed me to go and just ‘talk’ my cry. There’s no awkward moment when you’re with someone face-to-face. Some people don’t see my tweet amongst the chatter, some choose to ignore it, some empathize and offer comfort. But it gives me, someone who doesn’t feel comfortable talking about my feelings, a place to share my sorrow without any expectation of a response (though the supportive responses have been amazing and have made me cry harder and smile at the same time).

Although it doesn’t feel possible at the moment, I know this stage of grieving will pass and folks on twitter will forget these random outburst of sadness from me but I will remember. I think with this outlet my grief will actually pass more easily than if I just dealt with it personally. If I enjoyed twitter and my community before, I love it now. Thank you for being there for me.


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